If you find yourself in a long-term relationship, you’ve probably experienced it: the routine of being together can be as threatening as it is great. The habits which comfort us also undermine our sense of adventure. This is especially true when it comes to intimacy and sometimes you want to discover something new.
Couple sex toys are a great way to enhance passion, deepen intimacy, and introduce some form of novelty into your relationship.
In this article, we recommend sex toys for romantic celebrations – anniversaries, birthdays, or just because.
Novelty is a key element of passion. A vibrator for couples can introduce novelty without undermining the relationship because you’re embracing the new experience together.
Not only that – sex toys are the facilitators of moments of shared pleasure, which is one of the reasons we enjoy being in relationships.
Not all couples are ready to introduce a sex toy in their relationship. There are those who see the use of sex toys as defeat or not being enough, and even those who see the erotic object as a rival of sorts, capable of providing more pleasure or replacing human connection. There are also those who are afraid of becoming ‘addicted’ and no longer be able to experience pleasure without a toy involved.
All of these fears are unfounded – intimate toys for couples are simply an aid in bringing out our most adventurous sides, and yes, they can also help us experience more pleasure with our partners.
Designed to be used by a couple and to enhance pleasure not only by stimulating the partners at the same time, but also by bringing the orgasm timing closer. An experience, the simultaneous orgasm, considered by many the icing on the cake of a particularly romantic moment.
Among the best toys for date night are penis rings like TOR 3. Super supple and flexible, TOR 3 is worn by the man around the penis during lovemaking, but its vibrating head also stimulates the woman’s clitoris in certain positions. In the case of a couples’ vibrator like TIANI 3, the woman inserts part of the toy in the vagina, leaving room for penetration. Thanks to its special ‘C’ shape and dual motors, TIANI 3 stimulates both partners, inside and out.
They are sex toys that can be used by one partner but controlled by the other. This makes them perfect for foreplay, power exchange games, or to simply focus on one partner.
Remote-controlled sex toys are also perfect for long-distance relationships. Some companies have apps with virtual chatrooms that allow partners to control each other’s devices.
Another much-loved use of these remote-controlled sex toys is in public, when one of the two partners wears the sex toy and the other regulates its functioning… one of the most charming forms of foreplay that technology has created for us.
Nothing says special occasion like the gift of a luxury sex toy which, with its premium materials, design and high-level of technology, make the experience of pleasure even more refined. Imagine receiving the gift of a couple’s toy with precious details – TIANI 24k is made with high-end silicone and 24k gold.
When it comes to intimate objects, especially if they mark a special moment, aesthetics and materials play a fundamental role. No one wants to find themselves, on Valentine’s Day or anniversary night, that’s noisy, cheap, or tasteless. Instead, solidify the night with a luxury toy that contributes to the specialty of the occasion.
There’s a whole series of sensual accessories that manage to raise the temperature of the evening and, at the same time, mark its speciality. We think of massage oils that can also be found in candles. We think of lubricants that warm up the body, we think of feathery ticklers that can be passed all over the partner’s erogenous zones.
These kinds of accessories allow you to create the right atmosphere, you wouldn’t notice their absence but when you have them, they make a difference.
Soft handcuffs, blindfolds to exclude the sight, floggers with very soft tails, bustiers with a sadomasochistic allure, perhaps completed with a pair of nipple clamps… there are so many BDSM accessories that can be used even by the most vanilla couple.
There’s no point in denying it, trying something new, especially if that new thing feels forbidden, is a simple and effective way of creating expectation, excitement, and complicity. Knowing that tonight, to celebrate our anniversary or our special occasion, we will try something new and slightly taboo is a sure way to make this date more unforgettable than it already is.
Here’s how to introduce the topic of sex toys and choose the best one for your couple.
You can make your partner find himself faced with the fait accompli, that is, have a sex toy that intrigues you delivered to him or her. This doesn’t mean, of course, that you have to use it, but it is a very direct way of letting them know that you would like to try it and of piquing their curiosity.
Another fairly direct way of broaching the subject is, in fact, by talking about it. If you have a good level of confidence and communication is not a problem for you, talking openly about your desires and fantasies can be very sensual as well as effective.
If the plans above aren’t for you, there are many indirect ways to make your special one understand that it’s a sex toy you’re curious about. You can send the link to your favorite site, share a scene from a film or a passage in which the sex toy is the main character. Finally, you can show the effect it has on you and hope that your partner will want to try it together. If your, er, performance is convincing, nothing should be easier!
And here’s a few tips to ensure that the experience is equally enjoyable for both of you.
As with everything in sex, the first fundamental thing is consent. Don’t force your hand if you see that your partner is not convinced about using a particular toy or erotic objects in general. There is a small window of convincing to be done, but it must be done with grace and without insistence. If you have reason to believe that what is an initial “no”, perhaps out of shyness or fear, can turn into an enthusiastic yes once the ice is broken, it’s fine to insist a little, perhaps with a toy that, at the first experience, was put aside. But if the other’s refusal is categorical, you can do nothing but accept it and hope that, with time, they’ll change their mind. Or that you will.
Another little trick is to choose together. The surprise effect can be exciting, but do you know what’s even more intriguing? The anticipation: checking out websites dedicated to pleasure, imagining what this or that toy can do for you, discussing the various pros and cons and, finally, settling for one, waiting for it to arrive, unwrapping it with trembling hands…
The last important piece of advice for enjoying together and, possibly, in the same way, an erotic object, is definitely to keep the communication open between you two. Whether the new object is a disappointment or a discovery, whether it brings pleasure to both partners or just one, whether one loves it and the other hates it… everything goes, the important thing is to feel free to communicate. Because just as there is a sex toy for everyone, there is also a sex toy for all couples who want to use it and if the first one you choose is not for you, it is important to realize it as soon as possible to move on to something else immediately. Then, it may very well be that sex toys are not for your couple, but it is certainly not a first faux pas that can decree the end of your quest.
Like every person, every couple is different and it is really impossible, from the outside, to understand the most intimate workings of a relationship that often keeps two people together for life. If you are wondering how to choose for your couple, here are some tips for you.
First of all, it is important to understand the preferences and comfort level of each member of the couple with sex toys. Understanding the type of stimulation desired is only the first step. There are those who may prefer a vibrating object and those who may prefer a dildo. Those who may love phallic shapes and those who’d prefer objects with a less obvious shape. All these characteristics must be taken into consideration when choosing an object that is going to be shared. There may also be people who enjoy simply watching their partner, or being watched while they use an erotic object, but even in that case, it is still a couple’s choice!
When choosing a sex toy to use together, it is obvious that the needs of both must be met, but there are some characteristics that, when a toy is enjoyed by two, become even more important than when it’s enjoyed by one. The quietness of the object, for example. Nothing is easier than being distracted by a toy that is too noisy when there are two of you. Equally important is the ease of use: no one wants to go crazy with buttons that are difficult to manage or with functioning that isn’t functional. We’re definitely less patient and more eager to start enjoying ourselves when we’re together. Finally, the safety of the materials is also fundamental to preserve the couple’s health and the pleasantness of the experience.
Sex toys can be a great way to rekindle intimacy. There are many models, even those created specifically for couples. It is important to choose them together, keep communication open and experiment playfully until you find the model that best suits you.
There are, of course, a thousand other ways to keep the flame of passion alive, this is just one, but it can create fertile ground for other explorations.
Here you can find additional resources to understand if a sex toy is the right thing for your couple and to choose the most suitable one for you.
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