So, what’s the relationship between your favorite vibrator and your boyfriend? Do they politely ignore each other? Are they partners in crime and unite their forces in the bedroom to bring you the best orgasms of your life? Or is your boyfriend terrified of the idea that you might have a vibrator?
It’s no secret that heterosexual men have a complicated relationship with vibrators. Many are intimidated by sex toys even to this day, and many see it as a competition. Which is ultimately their loss.
Now, whether your boyfriend loves to use your favorite vibe on you during sex or he is hesitant, one way to spice things up and deepen the relationship between your boyfriend and your vibrator is by using the vibe on your partner.
Yes, you’ve read that right! Your favorite vibrator doesn’t have to be just yours–sharing is caring, after all. And after you’ve used your vibrator on your boyfriend, he might be much more inclined to make it a regular part of your erotic repertoire. So, let’s talk about how you can use your favorite vibrator on your boyfriend without scaring him away.
Why use your favorite vibrator on your boyfriend?
A pretty obvious reason why you might want to use your vibe on your boyfriend is that sex toys can enhance pleasure during sex. Vibrators add extra stimulation, and they feel nice not only in the intimate areas but all over the body. All the added pleasurable sensations will heighten your partner’s arousal.
If your partner is open-minded when it comes to sex toys, he might even find it hot that you want to use your vibrator on him. It screams confident and sexy, and many people find that attractive and arousing in the bedroom.
Also, using your vibrator on your boyfriend is something new and exciting. It’s a very easy way to add more novelty to your sex life, which can be useful to keep the desire flames burning in long-term relationships.
7 ways to use your favorite vibrator on your boyfriend
It’s time to give your boyfriend the time of his life. After you’re done, your favorite vibe might be his favorite, too. So, proceed with caution!
Play some music
If you are nervous about trying something new or if your boyfriend is a bit hesitant about this whole adventure, play some music in the background to set the right mood. Create your own sex playlist together beforehand to make it even more fun.
Music will create a relaxing, sensual, and sexy atmosphere that will allow you and your boyfriend to feel at ease and more open to erotic play.
Make it about him
It’s true that sex in heterosexual relationships often revolves around the penis. That’s why the orgasm gap still exists, and it’s a serious problem for many hetero couples who see penetrative sex as the only or the main way to have sex.
However, because we’re so focused on the P-in-V sex, we often forget that even for heterosexual men, sex can be so much more than penetration until orgasm. Sex can be sensual and slow, full of foreplay and playful exploration of his body.
So, make this time about your boyfriend, showing your love and exploring his body the way he usually explores yours. He will definitely feel at ease, which will make him excited, turned on, and open to trying new things.
Give him a naughty full-body massage
A great way to use your vibrator on your boyfriend is by giving him a full-body massage with the vibe. Our bodies have so many erogenous zones that are not our genitals, and we often neglect to explore them. Here are some you might not know about:
- Ears
- Neck
- Chest
- Inner thighs
- Armpits
- Wrists
- Behind the knees
Start by massaging those erogenous zones with your hands first. Run your fingertips over the areas and ask your partner which areas feel the best. Remember, we are all different, so what feels good for you might not feel good for your boyfriend.
Once you explored the erogenous zones with your hands, it’s time to get the vibrator and repeat the exploration with the vibe instead. It will add more sensations and further enhance the pleasure. Make sure you take your sweet time and tease your partner all over their body to build the tension and the anticipation.
Bring the vibe to the shower with you
Many couples enjoy showering together, whether because they enjoy the intimacy of it or because they find being in tight spaces with their partner sexy. Shower sex is sexy and convenient, so bring your vibrator with you the next time you have a shower with your boyfriend.
The sound of the running water can be great to draw out the sound of the vibe if that’s something your partner finds problematic. Also, you can get as dirty as you want in the shower–the cleanup is super easy!
Enhance oral sex
Oral sex is great on its own, but when you pair it with a vibrator? It’s out of this world good. People with penises have a perineum which is a highly sensitive area that’s nestled between the balls and the anus. When you stimulate that area, you stimulate the prostate (aka male G-spot) from the outside, and that can be extremely pleasurable.
Combining oral stimulation with using a vibrator on the perineum can create pretty intense sensations for your boyfriend. The combined stimulation can bring some people with penises full-body orgasms that are even more pleasurable than penis-only orgasms. Definitely worth a try!
Take the handjobs to the next level
Does your boyfriend love handjobs? Well, your favorite vibrator is the perfect tool to help you take your handjobs from 10 to 100 with very little extra work for you. Stimulating that area called the perineum we mentioned before can enhance handjobs.
So, as you use one hand to stimulate your partner’s penis, hold your vibrator against the perineum and watch as your boyfriend’s eyes roll all the way to the back of his skull.
Bonus tip: some people with penises enjoy the stimulation of their balls. If your boyfriend is one of those people, then consider holding the vibrator not only on the perineum but also against the scrotum to enhance sensations.
Massage their bud
Anal penetration is polarizing, even though pegging has been gaining popularity in recent years. If you or your boyfriend is curious about anal sex, the best way to start exploring is with anal massage.
So, use your favorite vibrator to give your boyfriend an anal massage. The tissue around the anus is full of nerve endings and is super sensitive. Holding the vibrator against it and around can feel super pleasurable. Play around with different vibe settings and pressure to find what feels the best.
And remember to be generous with the lube even if you won’t be engaging in penetration! It will enhance the sensations and make the exploration smoother.
