So, you bought your first vibrator? Congratulations on making a big step into the world of self-pleasure.
Whether masturbation is new to you or you just haven’t used a vibrator before, integrating one into self-pleasure practice can feel a little daunting at first. But as with anything, you have to start somewhere!
Making mistakes with your new vibrator is common, but they can be easily fixed with the right guidance. By following simple techniques, you can enhance your experience to feel more pleasure and more connection with your body. We’re here to help guide you with these beginner sex toy mistakes and how to remedy them.
Learning how to use a vibrator can be equally thrilling and nerve-wracking. Review these top mistakes to help set you on the right path.
You don’t know what you don’t know, and that’s definitely true when it comes to choosing your first vibrator. It’s hard to know what to pick out. If you don’t know what you like and what works for your body.
That’s why it’s fairly common for beginners to pick a toy that’s too intense, too large, or not suited to their preferences. You also may be overwhelmed by advanced features or too many settings to choose from.
You can help fix this mistake by starting with beginner-friendly options, like bullet or wand vibrators. You may also want to look at a beginner sex toy guide to learn the difference between different toys.
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Think about what type of pleasure you normally like during sex or manual masturbation. Do you prefer clitoral or internal stimulation? If you don’t know yet, that’s ok! You may want to start with a toy that offers both, like a rabbit vibrator.
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You’ll also want to look for toys with adjustable speed settings so you can gradually explore different levels of intensity without getting overwhelmed.
This is a super common mistake because a lot of people think that lube isn’t necessary or that there’s something wrong with using lube. While you might not need to use it, a lack of lubrication can cause discomfort, irritation, or friction.
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An important part of sex toy care is choosing the right lube for your vibrator. Keep in mind that some materials like silicone may not be compatible with certain lubricants.
First, it’s helpful to remind yourself that using lube is totally normal and just helps to enhance your experience. You want to choose a high-quality body lubricant and apply it generously, especially when you’re using it internally.
Make sure to match the lube to the toy material. It’s recommended to use water-based versus oil-based lubes with silicone toys, as oil can break down the materials.
There can be some vibrator troubleshooting when you first get your new toy. New users may turn the vibrator to the highest setting immediately. This overstimulation can lead to numbness or discomfort instead of pleasure.
Don’t let this scare you off, you can easily troubleshoot this by starting at the low setting and gradually increasing the intensity. Experiment with different speeds and patterns to see what you like and what works for your body. It’s helpful to focus on teasing and slowly instead of diving into the most intense setting possible.
Sex toy safety 101 comes down to hygiene. Improper cleaning of your toys can lead to bacterial buildup which can cause nasty infections where you definitely don’t want them.
Some users don’t realize that certain materials require specific cleaning methods and that you need to adapt depending on the toy and what it’s made from.
Practicing good sex toy hygiene involves always cleaning the vibrator before and after each use. You’ll want to use mild soap and warm water or a dedicated toy cleaner. You’ll also just properly store the vibrator in a case or bag to keep it hygienic. Again, look at the instructions for your specific toy to see the best way to clean it.
Another common mistake is ignoring the other erogenous stones or pleasurable areas on your body. Beginners often assume that vibrators are only for genital use, really they can be used anywhere that feels good to you. People who make this mistake miss out on full body pleasure, and the many relaxation benefits that vibrators can provide.
You can fix this by getting curious and starting to explore. Your body has so many different erogenous zones like the neck, nipples, inner thighs, and back; all of which you may enjoy using your vibrator on. You may want to try using different vibrators for sensual massages and foreplay. For example, wand vibrators are really common for massaging other areas of the body as well. This is your opportunity to experiment with different pleasure techniques to feel new sensations and learn more about your body.
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Now that you know the top five beginner sex toy mistakes and how to fix them, we wanted to give you a few other bonus tips before we send you on your merry way.
Before you get started on your self-pleasure session, you want to create a comfortable environment that allows you to relax. That could mean tidying up your space, lighting a candle, and putting on a sexy playlist. You may also want to start by doing some gentle stretches, deep breathing, and self-massage to relax more.
If you’re using your vibrator with a partner, be sure to clearly communicate how you want it, what’s working for you, and what’s not. Well, they may be able to pick up on some cues. They’re not able to read your mind. Clear communication will allow you both to enjoy the experience more.
Good job brushing up on your sex education, but now it’s time to get out there and enjoy what you’ve learned! Just as a refresher, remember to choose the right vibrator for you, use a body-friendly, toy-compatible lube, always clean your toy, and explore your other erogenous zones.
You may also want to look at a how to use a sex toy for beginners guide to give you more tips. This is meant to be a fun and pleasurable process, so take your time and enjoy learning about your body and what turns you on!
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